When it comes to valentine’s day as a single gal, the only thing you could do is hate it. Hate it with a fiery, cynical passion and refuse to back down on those beliefs because then your peers might just see your true colours and expose you for what you really are, a bitter singleton. Nobody likes valentine day if you’re single, it destroys the luxury of being single and emotionally unavailable or unattainable, we ask ourselves why are we single? Maybe it’s this pessimistic attitude we have to couples and their rituals and traditions when in reality we can’t face the concept of being alone on a commercialised holiday for one day a year when we can be single every other day of the year with no problems? Valentine’s day was born to be an international holiday of being with a significant other and not being alone at home feeling sorry for yourself eating a tub of Ben and Jerrys just to add to the cliché of being “alone and single on valentine’s day”.
When friends and family members ask routinely if you’re seeing anyone “special” when we say, no were single and totally fine with it we still get that sympathetic, “you’ll find someone look”or the “sorry you’re single look”. Is it time to bring out the big guns and the daring idea of accepting that were single and fabulous? That we embrace girl power and independence not to mention freedom from a significant other? Can being single on valentine’s day really be that bad? Or are we over analysing and creating unrealistic scenarios in our heads telling our selves were destined to be alone and single forever?
Why do we pressure ourselves and convince ourselves to be happy with being single, when people in relationships accept that they have that other person to confide and be intimate with without question or any means of convincing themselves that there in a relationship, and fabulous! Explanation point is celebrated and praised when used to finish that sentence, but when phrased single and fabulous ? a question mark is seen as the correct punctuation at the end of that sentence instead because apparently being single and fabulous is questionable and asked why is that good?